"I had an abortion in april last year. I had an abortion because my boyfriend told me I would destroy his life. I had an abortion because he said I had manipulated him. I had an abortion because my mother said I had to have an abortion because the mans decision is crucial and it’s important that both partners want the child. I had an abortion because my mother told me it would be selfish to have a child with my work schedule. I had an abortion because my mother would not help me raise the child. I had an abortion because my father told me that him (and my mother) can’t do me favors.
I had an abortion because I can work up to 80s hours a week as a medical resident. I had an abortion because my life has been whittled down to work and money. I had an abortion because the American system has taught me independence is essential. I had an abortion because only a community can raise a child.
I had an abortion not because I wanted one. I had an abortion for my ex boyfriend, for my mother and for my father. But I didn’t want an abortion. All I wanted to be when I grew up was to be a mother and to have a family. I did this for other people.
If you have a sister or a friend or a daughter who is pregnant ask THEM what THEY want. I broke up with my ex boyfriend after it happened and I have cut my mother and father out of my life for my mental well being. This was never my choice. If you force someone to do this because you believe this is best for that person you will hurt them in unbelievable ways. I would have laid down my life for my child, I would have done whatever it would have taken, I had the abortion not because I didn’t think I could do it, I can do whatever I set my mind to (I am a doctor), I had the abortion, for my ex boyfriend and my mother.
So if your loved one becomes pregnant get rid of your opinions, your judgements, and ask them in open air, not behind closed doors where your voice is hidden, as them 'what do you want? and how can I help you?' The abortion was not my choice and the aftermath’s has effected many people. Please listen to whatever decision a woman wants to make.
I had an abortion." —Anonymous