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I had been dating this amazing guy...

July 11, 2012

"I had been dating this amazing guy for about 3 months. Sexually, we had been careful. I had been  on birth control for years, and never imagined anything could happen...until I  went in for my annual check up with my gyno.

She called me an hour after I left her office. I thought this was odd, and became concerned that something was wrong. I answered the phone and she told me  something I never thought was possible. "Sweetie, you're pregnant."

What happened next can only be described as shock. She asked me if I knew what  I wanted to do, and I just started sobbing uncontrollably. I was driving to my  boyfriend's house, and had to pull to the side of the road. I told her I would  call her as soon as I had made a decision.

I called my boyfriend and couldn't keep myself from blurting it out.  "Baby, I'm pregnant." He told me to get to his place as soon as  possible, and I did.

We spent hours over the next several days discussing our options. Neither one  of us could financially support a child, not to mention the fact that we had  been dating a very short amount of time. I have always wanted kids, and he has  not, but that didn't matter. We loved each other, but we weren't ready to love  a child, not to mention the fact that we would have become parents dependent on  welfare.

I called my doctor to tell her what she decided. I couldn't believe how much  she tried to change my decision. She continually told me to call adoption  hotlines, to consider my options...she wouldn't take no for an answer. Not only  was I making the hardest decision of my life, but she was making it more  difficult for me. I had to yell to get her to stop. "Listen, I have made  my decision after countless tears and going back and forth a thousand times.  This is what is best for me. Stop trying to convince me otherwise." She  promptly gave me a referral.

The day came about three weeks later, and I was anxious. My boyfriend and I had  been up crying most of the previous night. I found out I was 10 weeks pregnant.  I started crying, and cried through most of the procedure.

My boyfriend was right there with me the whole time, and was nothing but  supportive. On our way back to his apartment, he asked "How do you  feel?" The only word I could muster was "relieved."

It wasn't an easy choice, but I know it was the right one. I was finishing up  graduate school, and just about to start my life. I won't ever say that I don't  want children, or that my choice was right for everyone. What I will say is  that it was the right choice for me, and I have not regretted it once in the 3  months that have passed. I will have children one day, but it will be on my  terms, by my choice." —Kristie

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