In 1975 two years after Roe vs Wade I had an abortion...

"In 1975 two years after Roe vs Wade I had an abortion. I am now 67 years old and when I think about what is occurring at this moment in history I am sad and angry. Sad because a woman’s freedom to choose may be threatened when she is most vulnerable. Angry because we are facing a threat to reproductive rights that was gained 42 years ago. It is frightening to me that those who are running our country are taking us backward.

I was married three years and we were having marital difficulty. I learned I was pregnant and immediately discussed it with my then husband. He encouraged me to have an abortion because of our relationship problems and the uncertainty of our marriage. I was ambivalent and struggled with my decision as to whether to bring a child into this situation. Ultimately I felt that having an abortion was the right thing to do.

The experience that was most memorable to me was the conversation I had with the counselor at the clinic. I told her my situation and she listened compassionately to the pain I felt in making this decision. I had assumed that since I was at an abortion clinic that she would encourage me in that direction. To my surprise she asked me if I was sure that I wanted to do this.

Of all the sadness that I went through to make that decision I remember that kind interaction specifically. It has stayed with me to this day.

I have rarely thought about my abortion so many, many years ago and I have not regretted the decision. Poignantly as I relive this experience I reflect that I might have had a 42 year son or daughter today had I not had an abortion. It would have changed the trajectory of my life. I can say unequivocally that I have had a wonderful life and not without its share of struggles! Today, I am a mother and a grandmother. I am so very grateful for the life I have lived and continue to live." —Anonymous

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