“I was 31 years old, at the end of my second marriage and I knew that I was going to be a single parent, again. After my first marriage ended, I was raising two little kids on my own, without child support or help from my family. I went back to work full-time to support the three of us. I was also going to night school, taking care of the house and yard, fixing the hot water heater, hanging wallpaper, etc. and making most of my own clothes. It was really tough. I didn't have a moment's rest. So at the end of my second marriage, we had what I guess you could call "impending divorce sex."
I ended up pregnant. And while I adored my kids and really enjoyed being pregnant, I knew I couldn't do the working mom, night student, Jill-of-all-trades thing but now with two kids and a baby. Like most women, I can juggle a lot of stuff, but I know my limit.
After a lot of thought, I told my husband that I was getting an abortion. He hit the ceiling, begged me to stay in the marriage, and have the baby. We had several fights about this. But you know in your heart and your head when a relationship is over and this one was done. I couldn't wait to get out and move on. I did NOT want to be tied to this man for the rest of our lives because we had a child together. That didn't seem fair to any of us, especially the son and daughter that I already had and who needed a lot of my attention. And then there's the basic economics of having a baby that I couldn't afford.
I had the abortion, which was quick, painless and a huge relief. I felt in charge of my own life. I felt decisive. I felt strong.
A couple months later, I had a tubal ligation. I have never looked back and I have no regrets. Women must trust in themselves to make the right decisions...decisions that no one else can make for you.” — Judith Chamberlain