I was 16. I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship...

"I was 16. I had just gotten out of an abusive relationship when I started dating a friend of mine, and for sake of this story we'll call him John. We only dated a month. A few weeks after we broke up, I began feeling ill and tired all the time. I had just about every symptom in the book after 4 weeks which was when I decided to take a test.

I really thought I wanted a baby. I wanted to be a mother more than anything my whole life. But it wasn't the time and he wasn't the one I wanted a family with. John was already dating someone else and told me he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby. I was in high school, unemployed, lived with my parents, and was mentally ill from the previous abusive relationship I was in. I wasn't healthy enough to carry to term.

I was in denial about my pregnancy for several weeks until I finally realized I needed to take responsibility and make this choice. It's been three years now. I have never regretted my decision. I am in university now and have a healthy relationship with a man who loves me. I can start a family when I am ready. I can provide a life for a child that I could not provide before. I chose myself and I chose my future." —Anonymous

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