I was fourteen when I had my abortion...


"I was fourteen when I had my abortion. When I first found out I was pregnant I was scared but I knew I wanted to keep the baby. I went to the doctors to see why I was having serious pain around my gull bladder area. It never occurred to me that I could have been pregnant, I never thought I could get pregnant. They had me take a urine test and it came back positive. When the doctor came back to deliver the news I was in total shock.

They did an ultrasound to see how everything was going. I was 16 weeks pregnant. After seeing and hearing the heartbeat of my child I had no idea what I was going to do. Do I keep it? Do I have an abortion? Do I give it up for adoption? All the possible questions running through my head knowing I can't answer them.

I get home and tell my boyfriend at the time I was pregnant and it was his child. He didn't know what to do or how to even respond to the news. Right away my mom says "you are going to have an abortion." He didn't want me to have an abortion just as much as I didn't want to have one. But after a few days of thinking about it I realized abortion was going to be the best thing.

I mean I was 14 years old not even in high school yet, no way that I can support the child financially even if I did have the father's help. I do have my regrets at times but I look at it as "right now my baby would be suffering because of me". No child should suffer. When I am ready to have kids I know that I will have made the right decision when I look back. My child will always know that I loved it from the first heartbeat but I made a better choice by not putting it through the struggle I had to go through.” —anonymous

#preteen #sadness #bestdecision #notready

Recent Posts

See All

When I had my abortion I was only 18...

"When I had my abortion I was only 18. I originally didn’t want to have it, but after I was told by the dad that he didn’t want anything to do with me or the baby I knew it would be a bad idea to have

I got an NHS medical abortion in May 2019...

“I got an NHS medical abortion in May 2019. I am 22 years old and in a very happy and loving 5-year relationship. We have always spoken about having children and are very excited about one day having

There is still some secret shame...

"There is still some secret shame that lingers inside, coming from a religious home, coming from a Bangladeshi home. I'm 23 now. I had grown up thinking being a mother was all that a woman could be. T

A PROJECT OF
Preterm logo

© Preterm 2018 | 12000 Shaker Boulevard, Cleveland, OH 44120 | info@preterm.org