I just turned 21...

"I just turned 21 and have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. One night we got drunk and stupidly had sex without protection (I recently had the implant removed because I got terrible headaches). I got the morning after pill as soon as possible, i think it was only 10 hours later.

A week later I woke up and felt really sick and randomly threw up. Despite looking online and seeing that morning sickness didn’t usually start till 3 weeks, I feel like I instinctively knew that something wasn’t right. I guess you know your own body. So I took a pregnancy test and it was positive. Finding out so early (a week after unprotected sex) made it alot easier to make an appointment at the abortion clinic, which i did straight away.

Telling my boyfriend was one of the hardest things I had to do because I didnt want him to stress or worry about it, I just wanted to deal with it on my own. But I told him and he was really lovely and supportive like I knew he would be.

At the consultation which was two weeks later they confirmed the pregnancy and went through my options. I went in thinking I wanted the pill option, but that would have meant I had to go back to the clinic three times. Once to get the first pill, again to take the second pill, and a third time to check that it had worked. They also said that it was the most painful option. So considering that I wanted to get the mirena coil put in at the same time, I decided to go for the surgical abortion asleep so that it I could have the coil put in too and would only have to return to the clinic once.

When I went back the procedure was really quick, although there was alot of waiting before and after. But the actual abortion and coil fitting only took five minutes apparently. The anesthetic was weird though and made me feel really emotional when i woke up and i started crying. Not because i was sad though, the nurse said that anesthetic can make some people emotional.

Anyway, people always describe abortion as an emotional and sad thing, but i'm really not sad at all. I'm in my final year of university and do not have a job, and generally do not want a child right now. Getting an abortion was the easy option, although i recognize that it would have been a lot harder had i found out later, but a week after conception is certainly not any kind of child, its just some dividing cells!

Anyway, i had my abortion a week ago and i havent really thought about it that much. I just want to share my story because i want people to realize it doesnt always have to be a deeply emotional issue, there is no shame in that. And i would describe myself as an extremely emotional person." —anonymous

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