I had an abortion over 30 years ago...


"I had an abortion over 30 years ago, and do not regret my decision for one minute. The reason I am writing this now, is that I decided to tell my 16-year-old daughter. I felt that keeping it a secret would equate to me being ashamed about it. I want my daughter to learn from my experiences that, yes, it just takes a second to get pregnant if you have unprotected sex. I told her that for me, life does not begin at conception, life was more than that.

I terminated an embryo at 4 weeks. This decision was the turning point in my life. Had I chosen to continue a pregnancy onto childbirth, I would have been on my own to raise a child at the age of 18. I would have been on welfare, as there would be no way I could support a child on my own. I would have stayed in an economic depressed community on the plains of Colorado, with my best hope of employment being Walmart. Adoption was not an option as I would have been disowned by my parents had they known, and the emotional trauma going through a pregnancy would be more than I could have endured.

I look at my 2 wonderful, daughters who I have now, who I would not have had if I would have had a child at 18. I went on to college, found a lucrative career and married a wonderful man who is an outstanding father and my soulmate.

I am choosing to tell my daughters about my abortion because I want them to be able to make informed decisions when it comes to voting people into office who can change the paths of their personal lives, and they could have no recourse. I want any woman who chooses to have an abortion to be able to have a safe abortion. I would put pro-choice bumper stickers on my car, but I fear that the anti-choice contingent would slash my tires or even worse. It's interesting to me how people who call themselves pro-life are so filled with hate!" —anonymous

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