I had just gotten out of a long term relationship...


"I had just gotten out of a long term relationship, when I had sex with someone who I thought was a good guy. From all the stress of exams and my breakup, I hadn't realized I'd missed my period. It wasn't until I had an extremely vivid dream about being pregnant that I realized I'd missed my period. I woke up the next morning, went to the chemist, and got a pregnancy test. My heart dropped when I saw those two lines appear. I told the father, and he was so horrible, told me it wasn't his (even though he was the only person I'd slept with) and he called me some very horrible names. A week went by and I was confused as to what I was going to do. The father messaged me asking me if I was going to have an abortion and that I should, or else. He threatened me, blackmailed me, he made the hardest time of my life almost unbearable. I went backwards and forwards for weeks on my decision, and it wasn't until my 21st birthday that I realized abortion was the best thing for me at this point in my life. I had my abortion a week after my 21st birthday. I was 10 weeks and 6 days pregnant, and it was the hardest day of my life. I sat in the car outside the clinic waiting to go in, and at that point I still wasn't even sure I was going to go through with it. It's been 5 months now since my abortion, although I know that it was 100% the right choice for me at the time, it still makes me sad every now and then. It is definitely a decision I will have to live with for the rest of my life, but I wouldn't change it for anything." —Sarah

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