I had an abortion when I was 24 years old...

"I had an abortion when I was 24 years old. I was living and working in Europe. I was also about to enter graduate school. I had been really careless with my birth control. The father was a man that I was with for a few years. He still remains to be my best friend and fiancee. There were too many plans we had for the future with travel, school and professional life. It was not a matter of health or rape, but a matter based on finances and my mental well being. I felt there were things I needed to do before I have a child. This sounds really selfish, but I knew in my heart that if I were to bring a child into this world that I would not be the best mother I could be. I'd go into old age feeling as though I missed out on what I wanted to do and I feel the child would suffer. Many women would love to throw stones at me for this reasoning, but in my heart I think I did the right thing. I was not ready. I did not have any maternal instinct and I would have been miserable. I am now in my early 30s, have a successful career, have seen much of the world and have a masters degree. I am also going to marry my partner of almost 10 years. I now feel as though I am in a a better place and condition. I took the abortion pill at exactly 5 weeks. It was rather painful, but it only took a couple of days of res" —Heidi

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